Over the holiday season, time and time again I caught myself stopping to reflect on how far our daughters have come in the past year. We are far from perfect and each one of us has things that we work on daily, but the amount of growth that our family has made in the past year is nothing short of amazing. God truly is wonderful!
Allie went from a girl who was our only child and was probably well aware that our lives revolved around her to a not so little girl (she’s 4 ft 1 in tall) who is very loving, adores her little sister and who wants nothing more than to make people smile. Allie has become such a caring little girl and she’s always commenting on how much she loves her little sister. Last night as we were praying before bed, she went into this long prayer thanking God for giving her a little sister and then continued on to pray that all of the other orphans in the world get home safely to their families. I just love her heart!!! This morning she was doing art projects (her all time favorite past time) and cut out a heart and wrote ‘i love u’ on the back. Shortly after finishing it, she came over and gave it to me. She went on to tell me that this heart was for me and that I could look at it when she was at school and it would remind me of how much she loves me. Melt.My.Heart!!!!
When we arrived home from India with Charu, she was a very scared little girl. She was the most relaxed and herself when we were together as a family at home, however when someone else would come into our home she would cling to be like a scared kitten and do the saddest little cry/whine and sometimes she’d even dig her fingernails into me. I remember going to the post office after we had been home a few weeks during nap so that I could mail a couple of packages. The girls were napping and I told Cory I wouldn’t be gone long. When I arrived back home, Charu was screaming at the top of her lungs in the corner of the living room and wouldn’t let Cory come within five feet of her. She ran into my arms and I could literally feel how tense she was.
Today, Charu puts her boots on and is literally thrilled when she hears that we are going shopping, to church, or to grandma and grandpas. She loves going places and loves when people come over. She’s becoming quite the people person (although she still is VERY apprehensive around men). She LOVES books, art projects, the iPad, and doing anything with music! Charu is seriously amazing when it comes to retelling a story through a picture book. If she’s heard the story even once she can sit and retell the story as she pages through the book…SO fun for her mommy to watch!
Upon our arrival home, Charu’s sleep patterns were less than stellar. At first, she’d wake up and you could tell that she thought she was in the orphanage. Once she realized where she was, the grieving started all over again. She’d be up wanting to play for hours. We’d keep the house as dark and quiet as possible, but I wanted to be with her because I wanted her to know that’s what a mom does. To me, it was as if she was a newborn and that’s what I would have done with her as a newborn. We walked, I sang to her (poor girl), and I rocked her. It was a very special time, but it wore on me over time.
Today Charu sleeps through the night in her own bed…although she moves SO much that this tiny little peanut sleeps in our guest bedroom because it has a queen sized bed instead of her little twin sized bed! When we move, the girls will be sharing a room so they are both going to have to get used to twin sized beds…that might be interesting when it comes to Charu! 🙂
There has been so much growth in our family since we arrived home a year ago from India and we are very thankful for that. I remember reading someone say that at three months home, you start to think things are really turning around and you’re getting in the groove. At six months home, things feel comfortable and at one year home everything feels normal. SO true for us! It’s been a journey and it’s truly one that I wouldn’t change for the world. It really is wonderful to watch these two little girls grow and change over the past year and it makes me wonder what this next year is going to bring!!